Hi Sarah - really sorry that you've got so much on your plate, but you sound as if you've been coping brilliantly, with health issues, work and a new baby - that can't be easy. First thing to say is that the NHS are getting very good at treating rheumy patients, but it is still patchy. I live in Devon, and Torbay hospital is so good that I wouldn't bother with private. I did have one private appointment as I wanted to clear up if I was eligible for a lump sum payout, but my joint problems are not bad enough, and hopefully never will be as my RA is now under good control. You might want to check your policy as there some chronic diseases that have special cover, and RA is sometimes one of those.
I am on methatrexate and hydroxychloroquin, but there are several here who are on sulfasalazine so may have more relevant advice.
The one thing we all have to learn very fast is how to be an assertive patient - it is essential that you know what the various treatment options are. The current NHS guidelines for RA propose an aggressive drugs regime to get the inflammation fully under control, with DMARDS, pain killers and possibly steroids, backed up by multidisciplinary care including the occupational therapist (who looks at hands, splints, exercises), physiotherapist (very keen on hydrotherapy at quite a few hospitals) and the podiatrist (feet, insoles, etc). As I said, it is a bit patchy, but the best hospitals are really very good.
I am 55 and was diagnosed with RA in May 2012 - I was quite disabled at that point, but have responded well to treatment and am now in clinical remission and back at work and feeling very good with virtually no pain and little fatigue. But even so, I have my monthly blood tests at the GP, with weekly hydrotherapy and regular checkups with the OT, podiatrist and specialist nurses. There is a help line which gives me immediate access to the specialist nurse who is able to manage my drugs, including changing the doses etc. In the early days I really needed that support, but now I manage myself with advice as needed from the kind people who visit this forum.
My limited experience of using private care includes seeing the surgeon about knee problems - he didn't realise that I had RA and simply gave me steroid jabs n the knees. It took several months before I could persuade my GP that I needed to see the rheumatologist, and there seemed to be virtually no linkup between the private consultants - at least on the NHS there are increasing guidelines to involve the MDT team and that means care is more joined up. I love your analogy about herding cats - it really is like that at times! The most important advice is to get copies of everything - chase it up and talk to the consultant's secretary - they sometimes have differen secy for private and NHS work to make life even more complex! You're obviously getting to grips with the jargon and drug names, but you also need to keep track of your blood test results. Most of us here have little booklets that get filled in after each result and we can then keep an eye on when the values go up or down suddenly, which may mean that drugs need tweaking. You need to be a well informed patient to get the best care, and that's where this forum is so good. We have lots of regulars plus 2 or 3 new members every month, so there's always somethng to discuss. Do keep dropping in and let us know how youo're getting on.
Best wishes - Sylvia xx
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